Saturday, October 2, 2010
anatomy of friendship...
it's just something that happens. i don't have any stories where, we used to hate each other. or we used to fight over the same girl. or we used to never speak to one another, but saw each other everyday in passing. anyone i'm "real" friends with we had some kinda bond as soon as i met them.
that's what is so great about my friends. it's like family. it's like they are siblings. yes, sometimes they can piss me off. but when it's all said or done, if they need me i'm there. that's where i separate "real" friends from associates. real friends are the one's who'll listen to me bitch and moan about my chick, my problems, my health, my road rage, whatever...it may not be the most interesting shit in the world, but when they know it's important to me....it's important to them.
i was talking to one of my friends one time and she said, "tell me a joke...i'm sad". and i told her a joke. and she cracked the fuck up. it wasn't cause the joke was the funniest shit in the world. but she said, "a real friend is someone who will tell you a joke when you ask them to...". a "real friend" is someone who gets you. gets what you need in the moment. no one has the right things to say all the time. no one can lift you out your funk. but it's the people who care enough to try. the people who know you well enough to know when they need to give you your space. the people who know that regardless of rifts that you'll always be friends. i got friends who are pissed at me now. but i know as well as they do, that when all is said and done...we'll be right back to being friends again. my "real" friends will always be my friends. you can't get rid of friends, because if you can...you were never really friends to begin with.