Saturday, April 24, 2010

hopeless romantic. . .


"Hopeless romantics believe in true love, and the eternal bliss that comes from being united with one's soul mate is what they crave most.

Hopeless romantics recognize in themselves the ability to love infinitely deeply, and they ache to be loved with the same fervor in return. When a hopeless romantic has someone to lavish their affection on, lavish they do. Hopeless romantics sometimes write love letters full of poetic phrases and send flowers, but mostly they try to find a thousand thoughtful little ways to show their love. They make romance into an art form.

Hopeless non-romantics think that hopeless romantics are delusional and too intense. Other than the seeming futility in the search for a soul mate, nothing frustrates a hopeless romantic more than a significant other who does not understand the hopeless romantic temperament."


hi, i'm an hopeless romantic. nice to meet you. i am on a quest to love & to be loved. my ideal love? someone who looks at me and sees everything they need, want, & could ever desire. i know i'm not perfect, yet i try to become whatever it is they need me to be. is it too much to ask that they do the same in return? i know, chivalry is dead. being a gentleman is archaic. actually being a nice guy, strike 1, strike 2, strike 3...i know i'm out. but what happen to the lovers? what happen to the other hopeless romantics? where are the ladies who enjoy being courted. who enjoy a love note, written on scratch paper. cards with actual feelings inside, not just the store bought ones. what happen to a woman actually smelling the flowers you buy her, touching them, smiling, thanking you? you know i've never been on a date with a woman or saw her without giving her flowers? what happen to the women that noticed that?

where are the ladies who aren't afraid to be locked in the house all weekend with you. that find enjoyment by just being close to you? yes, we can go out and explore the world, town, neighborhood..but what's wrong with exploring each other? caressing my hand, interlocking my fingers. kissing, touching, gazing into one another's eyes. talking. actually talking. i wanna know you. what you like, don't like. the thoughts in your head. i don't care if all you're thinking about is, "i need to wash my hair..when i get home". that's interesting to me. you're interesting to me. i wanna learn you. i wanna read your moods, expressions, your thoughts. yes, it sounds obsessive but i want to be able to look at you and just know what's on your mind. i wanna share inside jokes without speaking. yanno, that smile we give each other when others are around..that lets one another know we're thinking the same thing. i want you to share your dreams with me. your passions, your fears. i wanna know what scares you, so i can protect you.. what hurts you, so i can never do that.

let me look at you. so what if i stare..maybe i love your smile. or the way your eyes invite me in & speak to my soul. did you know i can recite every line, freckle, birth mark, wrinkle you have? it's because when i look at you, its not purely of a sexual manner. i look at you for the beauty God created me to see. and let me just say, after seeing you...he is my favorite artist, hands down. i want you to see me that way. i want you to love my soul, so that one day when we do leave our bodies...we will find one another because we we're always in love. do you believe in deja vu? i do, i believe we were together before. and despite the years, the geographical distance, the different environmental upbringings..we still found each other. isn't that something? i found you, you found me. coincidence...or destiny? tell me do you believe? in love? in lust, in pleasure. all can be obtained as long as you never lose focus on the first. i lust for the pleasures of loving you. it's like you give me breath, hence you give me life. your love is what keeps me alive, and i need that. i need you. notice, i said need..not want. because you are a priority, it's essential that i have you. for you are what love is, and i NEED love.

all i ask? is for understanding and reciprocity. understand that this love isn't for everyone. that it isn't easily obtainable. if you can't work for it, fight for it, live for it, love for it..it isn't for you. if it's too much. if you can't handle someone loving you intensely. walk away. if "i've never had anyone treat me like this.." stops you from letting me treat you the way you're supposed to be treated..go back to mr. wrong. i know it may be intimidating...a man who actually tells you what's in his heart, on his mind, and that he wants no one but you..forever. it's all good, take some time to let that soak in, i'll wait....

but be advised that although a hopeless romantic is annoying at times. even though we can be a wee bit overwhelming. once a woman who is ready for one, takes notice. we are heavily in demand. meaning...we are a diamond in a field full of coal. yes, the coal has the potential to produce a diamond and shine. but we are 99.9% less work...and much more desirable. don't let the next chick get your diamond....i'm saying..if you like it you better make me put a ring on it..

signed,

tha hopeless romantic

9 comments:

Epiphany said...

:) in that case, i love me a hopeless romantic...i'm one :) even though I don't like flowers too much, i'd still take them, for the simple fact that it's a gift and he was thinking about me :)

Isis said...

awww!

i think there are a lot of hopeLESS romantics who, secretly or not, share most if not all of the sentiments you wrote up there, but are either fearful that they'll never find 1 person worthy of that level of appreciation, or are fearful of that level of intensity.

i think you are a hopeFUL romantic because you actually want to live all these things & believe it's worth the effort. so yay, keep bein that awesome dude...ladies appreciate that stuff (unless they have really deep trust/esteem issues) even when they don't appear to.

sunshinestar110 said...

I wasn't ready for this at all...I was nerves At first its not twitter Thursday or man Friday!! lol...

This made my heart say awwww...I'm a hopeless romantic too!! I enjoy all the little things that don't really but really do matter. I enjoy the courting experience even though it doesn't happen often!

I believe all of us have a little hopeless romantic in us we just don't recognize it or feel like it will make you seem weak and a push over...nowadays its hard to find someone who shares it with you.

Kudos to you!

★Starrla Monae☆ said...

This is beautiful and all I've ever dreamed of a man to be. I am a hopeless romantic as well and I'm still (impatiently lol) waiting to lavish ALLLLLLLLL this love on him. Whoever he is, I'm sure he'll come ready for it! Now I'm going to read this again so I can daydream about him. Lol. Great post!

tha unpretentious narcissist © said...

@epiphany: good. There needs to be more women that hace tact enough to know when to see the thought behind a gift. A gift is a gift, it's not owed or promised. Anything anyone gives me i'd except knowing that they did not have to give it to me. It's a courtesy & it's the thought behind it. Love when ppl appreciate the effort even if they don't care too much for the gift. That's me.

@isis: yea, it seems like women appreciate it until they are with you. I think chicks get overwhelmed when a guy does shit she's not used to, even if it's positive shit. A lot of times she doesn't know how to handle it. I think the trust/esteem issue thing is real spot on too. Hopefully I am hopeful in my hopelessness lol


@sunshinestar110: switching it up huh..hit you on a Saturday lol. Thanks. Glad it's still women out there that appreciate the fun side of dating. Ppl focus too much on non important things in relationships & miss out on the "I love you just because" sides. I miss that. Miss when ppl got excited to speak to, see, be with their significant other. Miss a chick being speechless or crying cause she's happy vs. cause I pissed her off. Miss having a chick who claimed me to everyone & wasn't scared shit would backfire if we broke up. What happen to "we'll never break up" mentality. I swear ppl approach relationships with backup plans.


@starrla monae: thank you for your comment & your tweet earlier. I wish all women were like you. Think women have gotten the "wolf" card so much they don't recognize the real thing when they see it. I hope you get your hopeless romantic & he's everything you've dreamed of. Perfect person for you, always is.

luvlymskrissy said...

Okay so let me tell you why I hate you...

Because that sounds like something I wrote. Sounds like some things I've said. Sounds like some things I've experienced. See I'm a hopeless romantic. I'm an eternal optimist. I believe that love is out there for everyone and people sometimes over look love. I believe that us nice guys finish last. I also believe that some of my relationships have failed because men" weren't used to being treated that way" by a wonderful women. They were used to bitches so I usually get the short end of the stick( they always want me back tho, it NEVER fails!)

But I think I hate you most because you made me shed a tear at work. Ugh! Had me sitting here feeling like a weenie. I had to get up and leave my desk before I coulf finish the rest. * evil twitter avi glare* lol

Really this was awesome. Your women is lucky and I hope she appreciates you. You're not an easy type of man to find( and most of em don't want ur nice guys ass no way :P) but there are plenty more of u out there.

P.s.I promise not to ask my guy the next time he's staring at me"why are you looking at me like that " I'll just smile and think back to this post.

tha unpretentious narcissist © said...

@luvlymskrissy: well thanks for hating me and for connecting with what i was saying with your evil twitter glaring avi...lol. i'm glad it's more of us hopeless romantics out there.

Cyn said...

I always get the guy who pretends to be the hopeless romantic, then I find out they are not after I've invested so much emotion and time in them. I myself am a hopeless romantic, I try not to let all the bad apples ruin it for me but sometimes cant help but judge all guys the same until one can actually prove he is worth the time. Still looking...

Tauni said...

I want one! Where are they all hiding dangit-_- I use to be a hopeless romantic, now I don't give that part of me anymore....corse I'm fresh back into the dating world too....One day....maybe...I just had a poser rip through my life..I got snowed! It's hard to know if they are real or not these days...sad.