ManFive #18

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TWITTER MAN

a woman's nightmare..

ManFive #18 topic of the week: why women hate us being on twitter.

i was reading my timeline the other day and someone tweeted: "I'm convinced that every straight guy on twitter is on to get attention from females. Yup" of course that was tweeted by a female with over 300 followers. why is it that ladies can be on social media sites for fun, but guys have to have alternative motives? why is it i have to justify my twitter friends, LJ friends, myspace friends, etc.. but you can meet any of yours when you're in town. what's the deal with twitter being the average man's cheating ground/chick pulling stand, yet since every chick wants to get with me doesn't that mean you want to get with your 100- something male followers. just feeding you, your same logic.

5 reasons women hate "THEIR" man to be on twitter (cause yall don't hate on the guys you follow, being on there):

#5: just haters (aka: fun suckers). . .

fun suckers [fuhn suhk-er] adjective, verb, bitch. .

1. a person who does not under any circumstance want you to any have fun
2. anti-enjoyment seekers

example: "my girlfriend is a real fun sucker"

sometimes women just hate on any kind of fun you can have. they don't want you hanging with your dudes. they don't want you going out and getting drunk. you can't sit with your hands down your pants, drinking a beer, & watching the game in peace. nothing. they have to swoop in and spoil your fun. like an alarm goes off..."wooop, wooop..you better not be in there having in fun!". if they think you're enjoying yourself on a social media platform then immediately you're up to no good. fun when it comes to men = trouble. women don't like you to have fun, unless it's with them. and they even are stingy with the fun then.

to men: sex > walking in the park. to women: sex < or = walking in the park.

#4: ego. ego. ego.

they think it's about our ego. we're just on there to boast and brag and holler at chicks. so if that's the only reason we're on there... why are you on twitter? how can you say a dude is just on to holla at chick and get attention when you have 300+ followers? sounds like someone else is the attention harlot to me. just saying. yall chicks be having big "egos" too.



#3: think you're lame, boring, etc...

they can't understand how anyone else can possibly find us interesting. it's like, "why are all these chicks following you?". um cause i'm naked in my twitter icon? i'm saying. maybe they actually like some of the things i'm saying. maybe i seem like a good person, a cool guy, an interesting, funny, sexual monster beast..whatever the reason, why you hating? just cause you could care less that i'm currently eating cereal. maybe my other cheerio eating buddy can relate and we can have us a healthy whole grain oat discussion in the AM. just cause you could care less that i wore my pants inside out and everybody laughed at me. maybe that put a smile on some grumpy person's face today. there are ppl who think like me in the world. there are people with the same sense of humor. there are people who may think socially i could possibly fit in to their friend circle. stop thinking you're the only person who could possibly find me interesting, news flash: you're not.



#2: can't see the chick you're @replying timeline...

wanna piss a chick off. follow a chick with a private twitter account. then @ reply them. say some shit like..."hey! @sexyladyinthemirror" watch how quick you're chick type in: www.twitter.com & types your username in the search box. then wait as the stalkertwit gets mad cause all the tweets between you and @sexyladyinthemirror are one-sided because she has a protected account. yea, she may take a day, a week, a month to say some shit to you about it. but know she is fuming. yall talking one day and she just out of no where says, "why don't you ask @sexyladyinthemirror to make you some pancakes?"

W T F?


#1: think it's a way for you to cheat on them

of course, as with anything else women always think it's a means to cheat. i want to be sociable with people i choose, get along with, and vibe with. you're quick to tell me how many female followers i have, now tell me how many male one's i have. if it's so few...what's the number? 1, 2, 5, 8? come on. true, i don't have tons of male followers. and yes, i can tweet guys. but unless these are my dudes for real or i met them through a mutual friend, what i look like soliciting dudes for friends? i'm not here to network. if you're RT'ed. if you hit me up and seem interesting then, ok. but i'm not just going around friending dudes cause that shit is gay. let me be clear, it's not gay to have male friends. it's just gay to be like, "aye add me man...". so in turn you automatically assume since most of my followers are chicks, it's only because i wanna smash them. and really it's because i'm a straight dude and i don't go around online or in real life adding dudes as my friends like that. sorry. go to any straight dudes twitter, it's not because he's trying to smash. it's because straight dudes don't talk to dudes like that.

#twitterkills thursday #1

what's this? has he made up another hashtagish day? why, yes i think he has.

ok, i'm gonna call this segment. #twitterkills thursday. i can't promise this will be a weekly thing. but as the feeling hits me i will let you know how twitter kills relationships, one friend/new feature at a time.

this week's topic: Twitter List...death of friendships

by now the ultra exclusive beta tested twitter list should be available to everyone. i'm sure you've noticed next to people's followers/following there is a new link, "listed". it's where you can be grouped by other twitterers and shared amongst all of their followers. you can also see what list they currently have made or are following. . . unless of course they have private list.

personally, i thank anyone who has listed me. because personally you didn't have to, so the fact that you did..#shoutout to @helpdeskace, @nikkitaylormade, @live4lyfe i appreciate that.

i haven't created any list due to the fact that, i think it's a popularity thing. and honestly i'd just list all the people i @reply because i try to get to know everyone that follows me and vice. versa. my problem with list are, i've had somebody tell me. . . "i put you on my list, but it's private". then they made public list to include all their other "clique" friends. it's like..ok. i'm on a private list. yet you have made public list to satisfy your popularity seeking friends. ok, i'm not mad.

but let me ask you this. you think if i made a list. told you, you were on a private one. yet put all my other friends on a public one that would be cool? no. is it a coincidence that you find a way to include everyone of your other friends, but not me? uh no. should you have even told me i was on a private list? no. am i mad? no. will i name this perpetrator? no. just know, i know. and today i've #twitterkilled you. pow.

who will #twitterkill next week?

i'm putting myself on timeout..

seriously! the best way for someone to realize you're serious is to show them.

so, say hello to the Bad Guy.

not really, but say goodbye to mr. nice guy. for real.

i want. . .

i find myself in a situation where i know what i'm want, but i'm just frustrated i can't have it. at least not the way i want it.

may even be what influences most of my blog rants, twitter tweets, text assaults to my friends. i think it's pure frustration. it's like if something is always on your mind, heavy on your heart, on the tip of your tongue. yet, you feel like you can't say it. no one will understand. it just gets twisted and turned around on you. you're where i'm at right now. i know a lot of times it sounds like i'm being a punk about shit. i'm really not a punk.

i'm just a good guy who is past the games. past the informality. i don't have to see all the colors in the crayon box to know all i want is the brown one. i don't have to see all the cards in your hand, to know that all i want is the ace of spades. i know what i want.

i want to be happy
i want someone to love me
i want her eyes to light up when she sees me
i want her to jump over the couch, knock over the dishes, almost break her neck running to the phone when i call..cause she can't wait to talk to me
i want her thoughts to be my thoughts
her breath to be my breath
my step to be the direction she's headed in and is happy to follow
i want our fights to be stupid, so stupid that we agree and move on
our issues to be solved
i want her to hear me without even speaking a word
to listen to everything, not just what she wants to hear
to respect me
not just because she likes me, love me
but because it's deserved
i want to earn her love
and her to allow me to earn hers
claim me
not just when we're together or confronted
but because there isn't a person she'd be ashamed to say, "this is my man" to
be my best friend
first & last person i come to with everything
i want her to want me
in every sense of of the word, not just pick & choose the best qualities
because she loves my flaws
she loves my imperfections
she realizes it's what makes me me
doesn't judge me
or change me
unless it's for the better
and even still, it's with love. . .
i want her to see through the material things
see me through my skin, my bones.. focus on my soul
disregard the sickness, ailments, fat pockets that come with age
disregard the attitudes that pop up from no where
i want her to know that the way i care
that i love someone
that no one could ever change that
but her.
she is in control.
she has the remote.
i'm just her toy


stop playing with me. damn.

ManFive #17

ManFive topic of the week: why we can't go shopping with you. . .

there are a few things that we let yall have to yourself. the kitchen. the bathroom. the mirror. the closet. and oh yea, shopping.

i'm convinced there is a sector of hell where men are tortured for eternity: they have to wait, and wait, and wait for their wife/ girlfriend to shop to her hearts content. women often don't understand why we have such a problem, going shopping with them. what's not to understand? it's boring as hell. we don't enjoy it. it's not fun. it's like eating pieces of broken glass. it just doesn't make sense & it's painful.

Here are five reasons why we don't enjoy being your shopping buddy:

#5: yall can't make up yall mind to save a life. . .indecisive

a shopping trip with a woman becomes a "how does this look?", "is it cheaper here", "do i have shoes to match this", "i got to have this, no...i got to have that". yall will walk into a store, the same store you frequent weekly, daily, hourly. see the same outfit you saw online, in a catalog, on someone else. know that you wanted to buy it, until you walk into the store. once you've walked in the store and see yet another choice, you become confused. you will walk around with the item in your hand. you will browse other selections, try it on, go through your matching accessories, etc. then as soon as it's time to check out put the shit back. we can be in the store for 2 hours, when you magically decide that you don't need it, want it, or like it anymore.

#4: yall have to try on everything. . .

even if you've tried on the same shirt in another color. you have to try it on in that color to make sure it goes well with your skin. you have had the same shoe size since the 11th grade, but guess what...you have to try on EVERY pair of shoes to see if they fit. you even let the lady fit you for a bra, knowing good and well your titties have not gotten any bigger since last week. jewelry can't be gazed at in the case, you have to look with your hands. you have to find a bigger mirror to look at yourself in those sunglasses. W T F ? men don't try shit on. we go buy shit in our size & go home. if it doesn't fit we take it back (most times, we don't even take it back..just take the loss). this is why we can't stand this shit. maybe if there was more, "hey let's get it on in the dressing room" taking place. or we hit up victoria's secret and you wanted to bust a tyra runway show on us. but let's face it..that's our fantasy, not yours. and when engaging in things YOU want to do, our fantasies are usually null & void.

#3: you are satisfied with just looking. . .

yall think shopping is a hobby. kinda like sports, stamp collecting, or playing an instrument. a woman can go to 100 stores and just look and be satisfied. window shopping is an activity. you want us to get out the house, and walk around and LOOK at shit. *scratching head*. you can go to the mall and come home with some stockings, a magazine, and a cookie from "the american cookie company" and it was a successful day at the mall. are you serious? you wasted $24.32 in gas & 2hours of my life for that? you better at least make the trip worth it.

#2: you be in our pockets. . .

it don't matter how independent she is. don't matter if she got her own. if she tricks you into going to the mall with her everything becomes: "you know how good i'm gonna look for you", "wouldn't you like to see me in this?", "i wish i could afford this...". all that shit is code word for, "if you want me to talk to you on the way home, if you want to get some tonight, if you want to make me real happy...you'll buy this for me". women love to spend YOUR money. women are frugal as hell with their own money. again, yall can look at the same shoes for 3 months and wait for a sale. but if our ass is dumb enough to be in the store with you...fuck a sale.

#1: it's gay. . .

yall turn us into your purse holding personal assistants. they even have the little sitting area in the middle of the damn store where we have to sit like some punks on display. it's so bad when you walk in the store, you just *kanyeshrug* to the guy sitting next to you. all you can hear is laughing coming from the dressing room. guess what, that's your chick in there laughing at you ass. she's probably on the phone to her chicks saying, "yea girl, he sitting there holding my purse right now.." and they think that shit is cute. then she comes out to show you an outfit, "how does this look?..you think these pants are too high waisted?" immediately she forgot you had balls, and is treating you like your name is Dwight or Miss J.

ManFive #16

as stated last week, i'm sea-bound as of today. so manfive friday is manfive thursday this week.

ManFive topic of the week: why is it so hard for us to be friends with our ex...

i know a lot of women who sit around wondering if their ex, still thinks bout them. they wonder why he won't be friends, why he can't come around, or just call sometime. the gene of cutting shit off is different in men & women. women cut shit off when the emotion fades or passion dies. men cut shit off when the benefits fade or when they don't want or know how deal with something. a lot of times it's something you can't understand.

five reasons why i can't be my ex's friend...

#5: it's a different relationship. . .

"if i wanted to be just your friend, i wouldn't have ever gotten with you."

that line was actually courtesy of one of my ex's. yea, she's an asshole. but i guess it's true. you hear of all the dudes stuck in the "friend zone". they really are just there cause the chick just wants to be friends. but after a relationship how do you go back to that? after you've slept together, shared together, loved..how do you go back to a fraction of that relationship? how do you act? what do you say? when do you call? it's like you're dealing with a completely different person. it "feels" the same, but you know it's not.

#4: we hate you, it opens up old wounds & feelings...

if every time i look at you i want to punch you in the face, we can't be friends. and seriously, before my "X - mrs. " i had never had that much anger for someone in my life. but every time i look at her i remember why we aren't together. what she did to make that happen. and it just pisses me off to a point you can't believe. because it just keeps replaying in my mind. she doesn't have to say a word. she could even be nice towards me. it doesn't matter. her face triggers, her voice, even her name does something to me. sometimes the hurt goes so deep that you can't get past it. we HAVE to maintain a relationship because we share a child. which makes it a trillion, billion, zillion times harder. trust me.

#3: we don't wanna hear about your new man...

like my dude 100K is always saying, "there is something wrong if she telling me about her new dude". shit, he's right. you might as well have a purse because she treating you like a girlfriend now. just because YALL wanna hear about our new chick, don't mean we want to hear about your new dude. but wait, let me point out the difference first. if we're together, and you messing with somebody else. yea, tell me about that shit. but if we aren't..i don't care if that ninja got you bent over the grill getting you 673 different ways while cooking you dinner. i don't wanna hear that shit. i don't care you met someone. i don't care you're dating. i don't wanna hear about NOTHING you doing with nobody else. cause i'm forever "fuck that dude". don't matter how nice he is. don't matter if he treating you good. don't matter if he beating your ass. i don't like him, nor will i ever like him. cause once you've claimed the "cave". you don't like none of the new residents "moving- in".

#2: we still wanna fuck...

and you don't want to. lol. yanno the natural transition is to ween yourself off right? and after you've been with someone. they know you, you know them. yall body's didn't break up, just your hearts. he still wanna come through and give you some vitamin D. and a lot of times yall don't have any problem with that. yall be trying to give him that Vitamin V, because you're not trying to run out there and be with just anyone right after you break up. but we all know, that shit is not good. i mean the sex is...but actually being with someone sans the relationship with feelings still out there is not cool. follow this equation ladies:

you + me = no sex + hurt feelings / past issues = no friendship

#1: we still like, love, have feelings for you, or all of the above. . .

it's hard to shake your feelings. women just tend to express theirs more openly. she you may never know how shook the dude really is. you may never know how much he's hurting. or how much he misses you. the objective is to have a poker face. never let her know how much she's affecting you. never let her know how bad you're hurting. act like you don't care. act like you've moved on. it's hard to put on an act in front of someone who knows you. in fact i hate when a chick can look at my face and tell what's on my mind. seriously. if i'm sad, mad, something is bothering me, if i wanna laugh, if i'm nervous. once you've been around someone long enough and they know you. it's hard to hide how you feel. and coming around someone and them knowing how much it bothers you that you're not with them, makes you feel self conscious. it's weird. it's uncomfortable. we can't be friends because you can see it on my face, hear it in my voice, tell by my actions that i still want you. i still love you. and i still want to be with you.

that shit ain't cool..

ManFive #15

friday already? shit. i've been posting all week. just trying to leave yall with something before i sail away next week. so i will either hit yall up with ManFive early or write it and delay posting till some random time on friday.

this week's manfive topic: why do men fear labels?

yanno when everything seems like it's going good. yall are both in sync. headed in the same direction, and you whip out, "this is my boyfriend on him..." and you hear the tire screech sound. you smile turn your head towards him, and he's no longer standing next to you. you thought you were holding onto his arm, but when you look it's a cherry coke. dude is like half way across town already. what is that?

personally, i'm pro labels. i hate when there isn't a label on what i'm in. i don't have to be your boyfriend, but if we're talking..i need to be at least, "the guy i'm talking to.." shit the way i feel about ladies these days i should be doing why chicks fear labels. but i'm clueless on that one because that's just weird. yes, you women who fear labels are weird. i'm gonna take your "lady" badge and give it to one of these dudes who've been dying to have one. lol.

anyway, onto five reasons why men fear labels:

#5: he's doesn't agree with the label you've given him...

this guy, knows he's in the "friend zone" but he wants to be your boyfriend. and he knows the second you say, "you're such a great friend" he now has the label "friend" and not "boyfriend". it's awkward at times to wait for an official label. because no matter the label you give yourself once a woman designates that shit and gives you one you're sitting there like....DAMN. you could think yall fuck buddies. then she turn around and hit you with, this is my "boyfriend". huh? he knows no matter what he considers himself once you've designated him a label he can't get back to the one he picked himself. so he'd rather be left unlabeled then be given one.

#4: he's scared of change...

this is the dude i mentioned before. where everything is going good. yall have been moving in the same direction. his friends like you, his mama likes you. he enjoys being with you, near you, talking to you...but he knows as soon as yall put a label on it yall transform into a "marry-me" bot. it's the reason the transformers are always leaving Cybertron to come to earth. they don't really wanna save us, they just got to get away from those darn "marry-me" bots. you see to a man even though it's a natural progression to that stage you putting a label on something that's going so good scares him. it's like....we're fine the way we are. it then becomes a, "let's not rush" thing. it's a critical move that once made, you can't go back on.

#3: he's scared of being locked-up (missing out)...

to a lot of guys the feeling of being your boyfriend, feels great. he actually wants to be your boyfriend. he likes your company. he enjoys everything about you. it's just a cruel trick God plays on you. because as you know as soon as you get a girlfriend or married that's when everyone come out the wood works wanting you. that's when that sexy chick at work comes over and gives you that smirk, bends over picks up some paper with no panties on. that's when women at the grocery store run down the aisle asking you to squeeze their melons, taste their peaches, & they start to get a little suggestive with your banana. that's when you're walking down the street and a woman just randomly grabs you and starts giving it to you at the pedestrian crossing. it's an ego thing. it's the thought that because he has a title, he is missing out on all the sexy young ladies who probably wouldn't talk, fuck with, or even give him the time of day. but don't tell him that, cause that work, grocery store, crosswalk thing is SO gonna happen.

#2: he's scared of the expectation that comes with it...

it's no secret responsibility scares men. shit responsibility scares everyone: men, women, children, horses, etc.. the only people who love responsibility are filthy nasty dogs. yes i hate dogs. but i digress..

the expectation a lot of times is what scares a man from wanting to commit to being your man. this is for the more serious labels, like husband, father, provider, etc. some men want to revert back to boys in these situation. they aren't ready. it's just too much pressure. in most cases it's not you, it's them. and i know when they say that shit to you, you're side eyeing them like crazy. but i'm saying. it really is them. just like a little boy who puts on his dads clothes. he wants to look, talk, and walk like him, but he isn't ready to step into and fill man shoes. it's not as easy as it seems.

#1: he's scared of failure..

men like to win. that's why we are so competitive. and when you really love your woman. you don't want to let her down. the fears that come with commitment. with opening yourself up. with letting all the fake shit go, and being real with someone. it's scary. women are built emotion tough. we aren't. we hide our emotion all the time. the fear of losing. especially of losing you is crazy. the fear of not being good enough. the fear of not knowing how. this creates enough pressure to through a dude into a panic attack. he could be carrying around issues from previous relationships. he could be carrying around not having a father and not thinking he can be a good father or husband because of that. there are a lot of things associated with labels. a lot of times you think it's simple. a title is just a title. it's just a piece of paper. it's just a baby. but in reality it's life. it's a part of uncharted life that you have to be ready to make that leap. it may take some coaxing, but the right woman will make it an easy transition.

cougar update

yea, she's back. speak of the devil and she'll pop from behind you.

i'm laying in bed last night and i heard a beep. and i'm like wtf is that? cause i had just had one of those "can't move dreams" the night before. so i'm looking around. and i hear another beep.

as mentioned before i have a "beeping" problem when i'm sleep. if i hear any kind of beeps or alarms i jump up to attention like it's a fire drill. so it had me a bit confused. i was probably 2 secs away from hopping out the bed, grabbing my son out his room, and standing on the front lawn in my drawz. that's when i realized it was my phone. which i keep on a charger away from my bed when i'm not expecting no one else to call me for the night.

i look at the phone, who is it? my cougar. inviting me to this event she's at. 3:34am. really? i mean i know i work crazy hours. but when is it cool to text someone that early in the morning if yall aren't fucking, best friends, or family? seriously...

hmmm......she gets 67 cougar points deducted. sorry.

E is for effort..

you ever heard the expression, "E is for Effort"? that's some ol' sesame street shit. E is the grade chicks give you when you express effort. that's right forget A-F...they skip right to "E" on your ass.

listen to me. i've learned when a guy doesn't care, anything he does is fantastic. when a guy does care, it takes more to impress.

peep game: if i take a chick to a nice restaurant on the first date. she ain't gonna appreciate no other place i take her to unless it's better. BUT, if i take her ass to the Sizzler then flip it one day and take her out to a spot where i gotta wear a jacket and take off my damn hat she'll be impressed.

chicks only care when you don't care, then act like you care. you have to be a slacker to get ahead.

peep game: how a chick gonna think a dude with hand tattoos, a rapper name & no job got swag? but a dude taking care of his, able to take care of yours & pulled you when he ain't even your type is void of swag.

real recognize real, and i'm only seeing myself right now, what's really good with that?

and while i'm at it. why chicks ONLY recognize sweet or romantic shit on tv?

peep game: i'm watching a show with a chick, she's going on and on about the flowers. and the music. and the candles. and how nice it is. all the stuff the dude is doing on tv is so super romantic and super great. but shit..when i do that shit in real life you don't say shit. you don't even notice half the shit i've done. i'm saying what dude got a fondue pot randomly sitting on his counter? how you gonna tell me, "i thought it was a crock pot"...really? the shit say fondue on it and it was surrounded by flowers. shit, i go do "geigh" shit for you and don't even get no credit.

*reaches in pocket*: here's a quarter, a nickel, a dime, & a penny: i found you some common cents (sense)...

when it's time to date a cougar..

no, this isn't my "i'm dating my cougar now" update. chill out. she's still at bay. i haven't heard from her since that BET event. well she text me but no more "lets go on date" type shit. that will be sidelined by my chick who now is not feeling the whole, "she just wants to be your friend" shit. i mention my cougar and i see her ready to pounce back. ooh sexy, sexy!

this is for my dude 100K, his comment sparked the idea for this post. when is it the right time to date a cougar? the answer: when you're ready for the ride.

now i don't claim to be a dating guru. i actually started quite late seeing that i dated my first girlfriend from middle school to college. yea, i really thought she was gonna be the one. when that didn't work out i had to go through the, "my life will never be the same, i'll never get married" shit. so i was kinda wild after that. dating, talking to chicks, etc..one of the the first chick i kinda slowed down with was this older chick (actually the first one was a REAL UGLY chick, i just erase her from my dating memory). she was a chick i met at a step show, she was a delta (i'm an alpha btw, as if there was anything ELSE). and we kinda kept in touch. a few years later she hits me up with her new number. and we kinda talk and all that good stuff. i was in engineering she was in engineering. we had shit in common. i was 23 she was 27. now we started talking back & forth, things was cool. she attracted me with the, "i got shit together" thing. now realize i was a career college student..it took me a minute to get out of college. so i was still in college. she was off in Texas, working on tanker, making $80k, had her own house, car, pretty, educated, etc.. now i wasn't a golddigger. but come on, that is the type of woman you trying to catch.

so i slowed down for her. we started talking. then one day she calls me she's got hurt at work. so of course i'm asking if she's ok, etc. a few weeks later they lay her off. she has to move back with her mom. now this didn't change how i felt about her. but as soon as she lost her shit she started looking at me to provide for her. what part of "i'm in college" don't you understand? don't call me long distance, talk for a few hours then want me to pay the phone bill cause you were talking to me. don't hit me up to borrow $300 to pay your bills, when i'm sitting around splitting a $9 pizza with 3 guys. yes, i worked for UPS and yes, they say you can make that shit a career. but paying all your bills, paying tuition, incidentals, etc...you are broke as a joke. i found out right there what dating an older woman required.

R E S P O N S I B I L I T Y

and i know i give you young chicks a hard time. i know since i've declared i wouldn't go under 25 or date a chick in school yall have been counting down to your 25th bday & graduation day. but i'm saying. it was back to chicks my age or younger after that. the difference is goals. young chicks & older chicks have the same goals. that's why it's confusing. most women want stability & family. younger chicks, want it..but they will wait. older chicks can't afford to wait. so what do you do?

thing is you date a woman on the same level as you. if you're 21, and your shit isn't together. don't date no older woman. older women are NOT going to cater to you "youngness" for long. it's a trick. they reel you in, because everything is there. you're not dealing with a chick w/ fake problems (check my young chick post), most times they won't even reveal their problems to you. because older women have practiced in the art of mystery. young chicks put all their cards on the table. you figure them out too easy. that's when the appeal for something more difficult enters. you go after the sexy older woman who's showing you attention. and after she's got you she pushes you into a state of "balding". your hair just starts falling out with all of her issues. because her issues be FOR REAL. you be sitting there watching the game. instead of a chick coming to you with "baby, my car won't start...". you go out look at it, it's cause she left her lights on. quick fix, right? if an older woman comes to you, "baby my car won't start" her ass need a new engine. it's NOT the same problem.

the thing is, you gotta able to be the man in the situation. so to be with a older chick, you have to be able to handle her problems. there is nothing wrong with "real" problems. it's about your maturity. her real problems just seem bigger than life because in your life it's not a problem you're used to. once you reach a state where you see eye to eye with that, you're ready. so..if you got your shit together, date an older woman. she will take care of you as long as you can take care of her.


sidenote: after 40...all cougars want is sex and companionship anyway. so if you find a halle berry you don't have to do SHIT but give her some vitamin D & a sweaty cuddle.