manfive friday #44...

there comes a time in every man's life where everything changes. the chick you were so enamored with has finally shown her true colors. she no longer pretends to like things you like. she no longer tries to impress you with cooking, straightening up your place, or even likes any of your friends. she's gotten to the the stage where she is "too comfortable". and we all know besides proposing women run the "relationship" progression game. the relationship goes as slow or as fast as they want it. once the "just dating" phase is over. they lose the tolerance to deal with you & the things they once sucked it up because they were "so into" they no longer do. what happens when they get too comfortable?...

manfive friday topic #44: 5 things men...stop doing, when you get too comfortable..

everyone loves the beginning stages. when it's all about pleasing. you're trying to please me. i'm trying to please you. you're excited about everything i do. i think everything you do is great. then one day the spark is mosquito flame worthy instead of blazing campfire. let me let you ladies in on a little secret...once you stop trying. we do too. here are 5 things we stop doing once you stop doing things..

#5: we stop being embarrassed around you...

dudes be putting on for you, just like you be putting on for them. yanno how he told you, that his place was being painted? truth is..it was dirty as hell and he wasn't ready for you to see him like that yet. or when yall went to that nice restaurant and he ordered a salad, and told you he was on a diet. truth is, he saw the prices and realized that's as far as his money was gonna stretch. we do things in the beginning to save face. but once we get comfortable, we have no problem breaking the truth to you. trust me.

the sounds & smells that come out of us will blow your mind. you THINK we give it to you full force, but you ain't smelt or heard nothing till we decide to stop sparing you the funk. because lets face it, women think their shit smells like flowers. yall think the little slips and belches are cute. and yall try to hold them back for a while. but once you start talking to us about your period at length. once you start letting them fly. once you start shitting with the door open. all gloves are off. "wait till you smell my shiiiit...wait till you smell my shiiit...you won't ever get enough.." because trust, we try to spare you till we realize you don't care. once you don't care, we are free to pollute the air all we want to. so be careful...

#4: we stop doing things without expectation...

women get under the strange illusion that we owe them, but never think they owe us. you'll have a chick who'll say.."mcdonald's is not acceptable...for a first date". yea ok. well not kissing me is not acceptable...for a first date. a woman ain't trying to give you none or move too fast. yet, she want you to wine & dine her. she wants you to drop stacks on shit. she's planning vacation and shit, but ain't thinking about what's gonna be expected once we get on that trip. bottom line. i'm not preaching..."we paying for sex..". just saying we understand to get in your panties we gotta do things...what's up with your ability to understand? you can't expect me to do things if you aren't living up to you side of the responsibilities. if you stop doing things i want & i'm used to. why do you think the things you want and/or used to will continue? women are so one sided when it comes to expectations. it's like you excuse yourself from girlfriend duties but want us to deliver all of the boyfriend duties. what planet does that seem fair?

#3: we stop caring about how we look...

it happens to us all. once you're in a relationship..what's the point in looking good? lol. you can't talk, touch, and most times even look in the direction of another chick. so it's like, why tempt them with the eye candy? why make them want you and make a completely difficult situation for yourself. yanno...being so sexy that you can't keep the ladies off of you. so the solution...stop preserving the sexy. whaaaat? does something seem wrong with that? afterall...women start wearing those damn head scarves to bed. start putting on the pimple cream, wearing their bummy sleep clothes instead of lingerie, stop shaving locations as much. yall fall off..but are so critical once we start to fall off. so what, i got a belly? so what i didn't shave, or i got the country bear fro going on. so what i'm wearing my morehouse shirt from 1995 that's ripped in so many places it looks like i'm wearing a mesh tank top. aren't you supposed to love me by now? when does that, "i love you the way you are..." start to kick in?

#2: we stop taking control...

after a certain point, we admit defeat. we allow you to start doing shit for us. you start answering our phones. you become our personal customer service handler. you plan and decide where we're going on dates, vacations, outings. we stop bucking up about things, because we know it's going to lead to a fight, argument, or a night in a cold shower. women look at this as "punking out" but you push the relationship towards this. we didn't start off like this. when you let us take you out. when you let us determine what we wanted to do. when it was left up to us, we did it. but after we had control for a while, you naturally try to steer things your way. taking on more responsibilities. maybe you thought it was cute at first handling all my dirty work, but now that i depend on you to do so..why you tripping? why you telling me to go back up to KFC and get my 2 piece breast & wing...when you can just call and get me a free dinner for the next time i go up there? if you get me used to something, then you can't be pissy when i look to you the next time it happens. like boston rob from survivor.."you're either with me, or against me..". don't drill holes in the ship and expect me to bail the water out myself.



#1: we start taking you for granted...

there comes a point in most relationship where you aren't paying attention as much as you should or used to. it's a very dangerous place, because for most people..it's their breaking point. like seriously who wants to be with someone who doesn't appreciate or love you the way you feel they should? it's very easy to jump to conclusions and expect them of cheating. it's very easy to think they just don't care. when a man stops talking/paying attention to you as much...it doesn't necessarily mean he's tired of you. it could simply mean that he just doesn't want to talk about the shit you want to talk about. or he doesn't realize he has to show you the things he feels he's already shown you. sometimes women want the "newness" on our part to last forever. when again, they aren't exhibiting the "newness" themselves. not saying deal & let a man neglect you. just saying investigate the situation before coming to the conclusion that "he's just not that into you anymore".