Manfive Friday #82

'"it's driving me out of my mind, that's why it's hard for me to find. can't get it out of my head...miss her, kiss her, love her, wrong move you're dead...

that girl is poison, never trust a big butt and a smile..."

- Poison, Bell Biv Devoe

so what's the attraction to toxic women? why do they have that magnetic pull that obviously you don't. why is it that he's running around like a mad man looking for her in the day with a flashlight..yet ignoring you like you're sitting in the dark in a pitch black room?

manfive friday #82 topic of the week: why do men tend to like women who give them problems or have the tendency to cause the most problems in their life?

whether it's their baby mama. their ex, they seem to not be able to get over. or their current crazy bitch of a girlfriend. you've heard all the crazy stories about how she cut up all his clothes. how she left broken glass under his sheets on top of his mattress. how she had him buy her a car, expensive purses, spend his entire walmart check on shit he couldn't afford. and you're sitting there as the friend, prospective or current girlfriend scratching your head like..."whhhhhhhy?" how could he have ever been attracted to a woman like that. five reasons he liked/likes eating that poison apple...


#5: she's extremely attractive...

sorry, but we all know that a man will put up with a lot of shit for a big booty & a smile. he will play himself out royally to have that dime on his arm, in his bed, on his di...

well you get the picture. sometimes men weigh the pros and cons and sometimes her being attractive outweighs her making his life a living hell. it's like..."yea yea yea..she gets on my nerves but have you seen her?...". it's hard leaving a woman that's fine, simply because you don't know if you can get that back..and usually women who know they're attractive use that shit to pull you back in. like the song says...she's poison, but she's driving him out his mind.


#4: they have a history...

who likes to give up on something they put time and effort into? from the outside, we all say there are things we wouldn't accept. there are things someone could ever do or say. but when it happens. when it happens to us. no matter how much that inner voice is screaming, "GET OUTTA THERE". no matter how many people are saying, "LEAVE THAT ALONE". no matter how much they dare you to leave....you won't, don't, can't....

toxic women you have a history with makes it harder to leave. the guys with the baby mamas that they've been to hell and back with. been living together for years. been married to. broke up with only to get back with hundreds of times. it becomes a revolving door. a door that every time you're almost completely out..it pulls you back in and you're right back where you started. these women know how to pull him back because they know him. they know the things he likes, the things he don't. the buttons to push, and the amount of tears or guilt to drop to get him back into the pits of hell. and they will use it.



#3: she snuck the QUWAZY on him...


sometimes you have no idea what you're getting into. like you thought all the signs that pointed to crazy were illusions. her crazy was cute. it was funny. it was exciting. until you realized she wasn't crazy. she was QUWAZY. 


Quwazy:
[qua-waaaazeey]

-adjective

• a word me and my boys made up to describe a situation where "crazy" isn't crazy enough. it's like crazy on heroin.

• out your fucking mind; insane; borderline psychopath

• a chick who will be making a future appearance on "snapped", "america's most wanted", "jail"

needless to say, she's fooled him. she fooled him good. crazy women always peak your interest until you realize that the "crazy" is not an act. that's it's not even crazy, it's QUWAZY. but by then it's too late. it's hard to get rid of a crazy woman. but it's IMPOSSIBLE to get rid of a QUWAZY woman. like she will rather murder you than lose you. it's for real. like she will for real kill you in your sleep if you close your eyes for longer than 10 secs. she will poke those holes in the condoms "so y'all will be tied together forever". she will tell are your family and friends you said you were gonna marry her and start rocking a ring she bought herself, and look at you with a straight face like, "so you saying you ain't gonna marry me?". yes..once you've walked into the QUWAZY den, you're a goner. say goodbye your your friend, brother, boyfriend (if he makes it into a relationship with you alive), ex..etc. he's a dead man. and if you hang too close to him, she'll get a "two for one" special to include you in the death plot. be scurred. be very scurred....

#2: they are the female version of "bad boys"...

why do women like men who aren't good for them? because they offer something...different. maybe it's a challenge. maybe it's a change from what he's used to. maybe it's exciting. maybe it's wrong, sooooo it feels so right.

sometimes the foolish behavior is entertaining. yea she may get in a fight with the waitress at waffle house cause she was told, "we don't have no pancakes, do you mean a waffle?". she may come to your job and curse you out in front of your boss. but she's just "impulsive" not QUWAZY. it's like watching reality tv all day, but it cooks and sleeps with you.


#1: he's missing something...

maybe he has a few screws loose. maybe his common sense is leaking. or maybe, just maybe he really did lose his mind...

a lot of times men date women who aren't good for them because they lack the ability to not be with them. maybe it's a dependency. maybe it's insecurity on his part. maybe he's just blinded by love. either way, it's hard for him to see that his life would be/could be better without her. so he just puts up with the bullshit. he deals with her issues. he deals with the problems she brings to his life. the struggle she places on his shoulders because at the end of the day he feels like this is how a relationship goes.

he's missing something. he's missing the right woman. and he's convinced himself that this impostor is her. and until he finds his way. until he finds that part/piece that's missing. he won't be able to leave her alone or turn her away.