Thursday, January 6, 2011

cuffing 365. . .



i know you've heard of cuffing season. yanno the time when everyone is trying to get someone to keep them warm in the winter.

see to some the other seasons aren't important. in fact, the idea of getting with someone just cause it's getting cold out, a holiday is coming, or it's the season to be attached is kinda..well lame.

it's been said, you must love someone through all the seasons to know it's really love. to know it's really real. to know it'll really last. so cuffing for just one season...is a waste of time. i want to see the sunsets with you. feel the cool breeze. watch the leaves falls. sit in front of the fireplace. you see what the guys who only cuff in the winter don't know is there is so much more than just having someone to keep you warm. so much more to "cuffing".

i wanna remember you in the summer. i call it the season of nakedness. it's when you debut that physique you worked so hard to get. the dieting, exercising, the toning up..i see you girl.  i see what you're working with. and i appreciate it. my eyes thank you. showing off those legs. arms. back. i catch myself stumbling over my own feet admiring the way that sundress sways when you walk by. seeing the freshly painted toes in those flip flops. manicured nails fresh out that nail shop. following the curve of your collarbone to places my eyes probably shouldn't be looking, but eh..i can't blame you for being so beautiful, huh? i want to stop you. smile. ask you for a moment of your time, would that be alright? i hate to be one of those guys who runs lines on you, but.. "my mother told me if i ever saw a woman as beautiful as you, i need to stop her and tell her how pretty i think she is". whether or not you think that was lame, you still give me your name. your number. and agree to give me a chance. as we meet for lunch. getting to know each other. discussing our lives, friends, views. it's like we connect instantly. the sparks are there. hours, days, even weeks later we are on fire. the summer is hot. the long days walking in the park. holding hands. enjoying each other's company. getting to know one another. see this isn't "summer love". we aren't kids. we aren't on spring break. this love affair doesn't have to stop just because the leaves start to fall. or the temperature gets cooler. it just means i simply must fall deeper in love with you. each moment, deeper. each day, deeper. see love doesn't fade with the seasons. attention does. appreciation does. interest does. as the blue skies turn orange, we still can enjoy the sunsets together. the crisp air, the smell of seasons changing. this is the "family" season. the time of the year you invite me home for thanksgiving. you introduce me to your parents. your siblings. your cousins. aunts and uncles. it's when i learn that you sucked your thumb till you were twelve. when your mom tells me all those embarrassing stories you planned for me to NEVER find out about. it's when we spend our first holiday together. making memories that we'll remember years from now. our first. fall to me is an accidental metaphor of love. one of the most romantic seasons. i liken the leaves on the trees to the hairs on your head. i want to watch them change colors, with you. i want to be with you through all of our changes. i can't help but appreciate the beauty of nature. some things are just too beautiful to explain. the leaves, the sunsets, you. all placed here by God. all placed in my life for a reason. i want your touch to feel more familiar than it did a day ago. your kiss to taste sweeter than it did a week ago. your heart to beat faster than it did a month ago. loving someone takes effort. effort takes time. so i want to take my time showing you how much i love you. as the days grow colder, i feel like we've been together forever. yes, this is the actual "cuffing season". it's the time of year all of our single friends, somehow start becoming attached. while they're out trying to find someone to buy them a christmas present, we're picking out our first tree together. picking out gifts for our family and friends together. the keyword is, together. i don't care what i do, as long as it's with you. see winter is cuffing season because it feels natural to be up under someone when it's cold outside. to have someone keeping you warm. to walk close. arm and arm. to cuddle under the covers. for you to warm my feet with your unusually hot space heater-like body. you make my winter feel like summer all over again. different season, yet the desire to do the same things is still there. along with a list of new things. things i've been waiting to do with that special person. while you laugh at my dad's jokes. build snowmen with my son. help my mom figure out how to text on the cellphone i just bought her. little things that seem like nothing, means so much. you mean so much. as the ice starts melting. and the days get a little warmer. i take comfort in you. we've made it through 3 seasons, and this last one seems so full of potential. i look forward to the lazy days by the lake. kissing you in the spring rain. i call this the "nurturing" season. because this is where everything happens. what you plant, takes root and grows. i've nurtured our love for four seasons, and i'mi'm looking forward to what it becomes. and i'm praying that it last always. yea, some guys may cuff for a season. but i cuff 365 days of the year.

10 comments:

SJ said...

u stole my heart with this one! Yeah...this whole "cuffing" season serves its purpose for the moment but it all boils down to a big ole waste of someone else's time and energy!!
dudes trying to go after chics for all the wrong reasons...makes no sense!
I need a real man who will want to see the seasons with me...what ever happened to longevity? the only upside to cuffing season is that it starts out as something that is only meant to last a season...but maybe turns into something that lasts both of their life times.
roll the dice and go!

sunshinestar110 said...

awwwww....ATL you came into 2011 with a good one right here! it made mes mile becuase lawd know i don't believe in "cuffin' season" *wipes tear*

Eyes On The Prize (eyesOTP) said...

I never heard of cuffing but I love your take on it.

This was just too sweet...too sweet. I hope that whoever gets your heart appreciates you.

Monique said...

And that sir is how you come back to blogging in a new year. Cheers

tha unpretentious narcissist© said...

@SJ: aw. thanks. i'm with you, you never know what something can turn into..why set the bar low? just put all the cards on the table and go for it.

@sunshinestar110: um..DC, who is that in your icon? i guess i need to hit your blog. lol. but really. who dat harpo? lol..and thanks.

@eyesontheprize: thanks. i that's all i want, to be appreciated. that's it. promise.

@monique: thank ya kindly. trying to get back into the blogging right.

Piph said...

Awwww. This was cute! I loved it.

And I never heard of cuffing either. Since I'm just hearing about it, yes, "cuffing" for ONE season IS a waste of peoples' time. If you're going to be with somebody go for it for the long run, not as a short term thing.

luvlymskrissy said...

Lol I'm a 365 cuffer myself lol.

tha unpretentious narcissist© said...

@piph: thank you. i can't believe yall haven't heard about cuffing before now tho.

@luvlymskrissy: your a 365 twice a day cuffer. lol.

Tauni said...

Awwww moment! And so true!

Luana said...

U melted my heart with this...i swear i would like to find you and marry you if all this words were real and put into practice(no worries we wont ever meet and probably U wont ever see this plus U maybe married yourself) ..I searched for love all my life and sometimes i feel giving up the fight..even now when i think i found it , it seems i found it for myself as the person i share my love with seems to think U don't need to work to keep love going..sad but true..wishing U all the best and i hope you do find that woman that will know how to appreciate a man with this brain & desire...