if there is one thing you should be learning about me, i love creating days..phrases...hashtags, etc.this is NOT gonna be a weekly thing. i know how i say that then yall hit me up on twitter like.."where is #migraine monday meltdowns..." *evil stare* @drrarepearl83.
migraine monday meltdowns is a courtesy tip for you ladies how to prevent your dude, friend, brother, father, etc...from melting down on monday.
today's tip: be prepared to swallow the honesty pill
something we appreciate as men is straightforwardness. we want you to get to the point and just say what you gotta say. we also want to know if you have a problem, issue, concern. . . like some time around the time you actually have it. so if you got something to say...say it. that being said. something i think that is hard for women is to just tell us the truth. maybe it's a protect our feelings, protect our ego, or "i'm just afraid of you.." thing. but for some reason women don't like to tell you the truth, unless it has to do with something we've done wrong, you want to hurt us intentionally, or you're just fed up. anything else, it's like a skating rink because yall asses are just skating around.
be big girls, like you swallow those big 800mg motrin at that time of the month. those big ass prenatal vitamins. birth control pills, plan b, antibiotics, etc... swallow the honesty pill. just say what you're feeling, but learn how to accept the reaction that comes with it. yea he might become mad. yea he may overreact or not understand. yes, he might need reasons, examples, an explanation. yea he may become defensive. but just like anything else, just say it because it needs to be said. if you don't like how he dresses, looks, dances, drives, etc..just say it. i know you're thinking, "what good will it do?". and yea, sometimes it's good to use tact, but if you never say anything about something bothering you it begins to be your problem..not his. so if you never tell him his favorite shirt he never washes, sleeps in most nights, and wears every time yall go out needs to go in the trash. that's your problem, not his. if he gives you pecks and you prefer long passion filled kisses. that's your problem, not his. if he dances like elaine from seinfield and embarrasses the hell out of you at the christmas party, your wedding, your kid's b-day parties. that's your fault, not his. if you don't tell him, he doesn't care, know, and won't alter it. we aren't mind readers. we won't correct or change things that don't seem wrong to us. we also aren't MAN-nequins, we do have feelings. you can hurt them. so when you swallow and take your honesty pill..remember we have to swallow & take our "hurt feelings" pill and it'll take time for it take effect.
honesty is the best policy and even though things seem to get complicated for a minute, in the long run there could be a compromise or change that could benefit the both of you. stop causing monday meltdowns..just be honest with us (you want the same from us, right?). and deal with us being upset, hurt, or defensive. imagine if i told you, i hate that dress you wear ALL the time. the one that's your favorite. you ask me why, and i say it makes you look pregnant. you ask me if i think you're fat, and i shrug and give you one of those..."uh..no" but you read my facial expressions and know i mean, "um yea". imagine how that would make you feel. just because i'm a man don't think that you suggesting i should lay off the cupcakes, fried chicken, & other "good for your mouth, bad for your heart" foods, that's gonna make me feel good about myself. find a nice way to say what you got to say. and yes, it may be a "really?" moment but that's better than a "i hate her ass...evil bitch" moment. don't throw grease at me and assume it's gonna roll off my shoulder like water.
